Divorce is by its very nature an emotional experience. However, letting your emotions get the best of you as you go through the process can lead to poor decisions and errors that can impact your long-term future.
Although it is challenging to keep your emotions in check in a situation that is so fraught, it is critical to your well-being. Here are three simple tips that can help you manage your emotions during a separation and divorce.
1. Have a big-picture outlook
A divorce provokes intense responses that make your world seem like all that matters is what is happening in the short-term, right now. However, one way to help you keep your emotions in perspective is by taking a long-term view of your life and your future. It can be difficult to imagine a future where this situation is far behind you, but it does exist. Focus on how you want your life to look a year from now, five years from now, even 10 years from now. Projecting your vision from the immediate situation into the future can take the emotional impact out of what is happening now.
2. Research and get information
Do not proceed in your divorce based on hearsay or what your friends tell you. Although your emotional side may want to believe everything you hear, you should engage your rational side with practical research and information about how divorce works. Basing your decisions on solid information and professional guidance is a reliable way to ensure you make good choices.
3. Be compassionate with yourself
You may be very hard on yourself as you move through divorce, especially if you spend time dwelling on things you think you could have or should have done differently. It is important for you to practice good self-care, and part of that is being compassionate with yourself. Treat yourself as you would a good friend, and allow yourself to feel your emotions. Paradoxically, if you try to repress your feelings during this time, you may tend to become even more emotional. Allowing yourself to vent your emotions appropriately keeps them regulated.
With these tips and a supportive network of family and friends, you can face this difficult time with confidence and the right outlook.