No one plans on getting a divorce the first time, and after that experience, they are unlikely to want to suffer through it again. Yet, the statistics for second marriages are not encouraging. The Gottman Institute shares that second marriages have a divorce rate of more than 60 percent. Some speculate that the reason is due to marrying too soon or no longer fearing divorce, while other factors include greater independence and not having shared children to consider.
Whatever the reasons, the high number does not mean you are doomed if you decide to marry again. There are ways you can reduce the likelihood of another divorce and better prepare for if it does happen despite your best efforts.
Allow time to recover
Being a single parent can be difficult and lonely, but do not let that prevent you from fully recovering from your divorce. You need time to adjust to your new life, work through feelings and determine if there is anything you can do differently next time. Going to a counselor can help you through this stage. Premarital counseling may also improve a pending marriage, especially if you are blending families.
Sign a prenup
When you and your new spouse each have your own children and pasts, a prenuptial agreement is even more important for the protection of assets. Identifying now what is separate property (and making sure it stays separate) and discussing what would happen to marital property can eliminate much of the contention in a divorce. You can also learn from your first experience what else to include in the document.
Address issues as they arise
Be observant and watch for signs that your relationship is struggling or one of you is unhappy. Communicate with your spouse or go together to see a marital therapist if you two have difficulty talking. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It is smart because you can address problems before they get too big.