Getting a divorce can be one of the most frightening things you will ever do. Even seriously considering it takes a lot of courage, let alone actually going through with it. But just because you have decided you want to end your long-term marriage, it does not mean you are ready to begin the process.
There are many things you must consider first or you will make lots of mistakes that can result in unnecessary costs, delays and conflict. Here is how to know when you are truly ready to start your divorce.
You understand the consequences
It is easy to imagine the happiness and freedom you will feel once you are no longer married to your spouse. However, the reality is you likely will still face many hardships during and after the proceedings. Divorce leads to changes in all aspects of your life, including:
- Financial stability
- Retirement plans
- Physical health
- Mental and emotional well-being
- Insurance coverage
- Estate planning
- Friendships and family relations
Losing your long history with your spouse is a far-reaching consequence of leaving him or her, so be sure you are prepared for them.
You know what you want from your divorce
You know you want a divorce, but what exactly does that mean? Do you want to serve the papers? Have you decided on the assets and rights you want to fight for? Are there any benefits you do not want to change? Do you know what approach your divorce requires? Are you set on revenge or doing what is best for your family? If you are unsure of what you want or are acting out of anger, it is a good idea to speak to a marital therapist first.
You have spoken to a lawyer
Calling a Texas family law attorney does not mean you have to spend money or proceed any further if you are not ready. Initial consultations are free and noncommittal. They simply can be helpful to get reliable legal advice based on your specific circumstances.