Anxious, confused, guilty, depressed — these feelings are well known to many divorcing parties in Texas. While some individuals are struggling to work out such internal feelings of angst, they forget that their children may be struggling with similar feelings.
Depending on the age of the child, they may exhibit their discomfort with the divorce by drawing away from parents, all the way to our right resentment and everywhere in between. While being a source of support for your child during this time is critical, try not to wallow in guilt. They are adjusting and you are doing the best you can.
That being said, sometimes when a parent is in the midst of pain and turmoil surrounding their divorce, they may miss signs that their child is struggling and needs help. Be in tune with reports from grandparents, school teachers, coaches and other parties that have close contact with your child in the wake of your divorce.
In some situations, a child really benefits from problem-centered therapy, even if it is just for a short period of time. If a parent in Texas feels like their child would benefit from this, speaking with the child’s school is a great place to start. Often, public schools have workshops for children dealing specifically with divorce.
If a child lashes out, it may just be a temporary phase as they work to ascertain boundaries in this new situation. However, if there has been a marked changed in their personality, mood or interactions with others, pursuing help may be a helpful idea for you and your child.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Does My Child Need Therapy?” Marsha Temlock, Sept. 14, 2012