Divorce can instigate big changes in your life as well as in the lives of your children. Although you may never have pictured yourself going through this major life process, divorce is a common experience for many.
In the U.S., the American Psychological Association states that 40 to 50% of marriages eventually end in divorce. If you and your spouse intend to divorce, there are certain strategies you should try when you break the news to your children.
1. Prepare a script
Before you tell your children about your divorce, sit down with your spouse and write a general outline for the conversation. This can help you stay on track and avoid blaming each other for ending your marriage.
2. Avoid placing blame
If your divorce is contentious, you may want to tell your children that the end of your marriage is your spouse’s fault. However, you should refrain from doing this and present a united front to your children.
3. Tell your children together
You may want to tell your children about your divorce by yourself or tell your older children before your younger children. But you should have this conversation with your spouse present and when all your children can be there together.
Prepare yourself for a wide range of emotions and reactions when you tell your children about your impending divorce. Your children may not react how you expect, but you should prepare yourself to support them in whatever way you can as your divorce proceedings move forward.