Texas couples whose marriage is on the rocks may not know when it is time to call it quits. Some people may think it is time for a divorce after a temporary rough patch whereas others may underestimate bigger warning signs, such as a spouse trying to change the other’s values. If you are thinking about divorce, there are some questions that you should ask yourself and things you should discuss with your partner to help evaluate your decision.
Do not blindside your partner
Before telling your spouse you want a divorce, reflect on whether you have fully discussed the problems in the relationship. Mentioning a problem once in passing, such as, “you take me for granted,” may not have as strong an effect as sitting down to talk about concerns that one spouse is not showing enough appreciation for the other. It is easy for people who have been together awhile to lose some common courtesies, but this may be a problem that can be resolved and worked on, provided both spouses are committed.
Ask yourself if you are being a supportive partner
Not only should spouses respect each other, but they should encourage each other to grow and achieve their goals. If you feel like your spouse is holding you back or if you feel like your spouse has gone backwards in development rather than forward, such as developing a drinking habit, this may be a bad sign. On the other hand, if you have not been making an effort to listen to and encourage your partner, ask yourself if this is something you can improve.
Do you want to be around your partner?
At the end of the day, you may decide that you do not want to make the effort to make the relationship work, but you should admit this to yourself. Assess whether you would truly be happier without your spouse, and consider whether you actually enjoy spending time around your spouse. If you think you would be better off alone, you may want to consider speaking to a family law attorney.