Going through a divorce is a complicated and emotional time often fraught with a lot of conflict and anger. However, not all divorces have to be conflictual, and there are ways you can minimize the anger inherent in your divorce proceedings.
Even if you have been married for many years and your spouse is divorcing you against your wishes, there are practices you can put into action to help you move through this difficult time in the most harmonious way possible. One key is to find ways to emotionally detach from the decision-making process in your divorce.
Making the best decisions in your divorce
When you are extremely emotional and angry over your divorce, you are not able to make the most rational and beneficial decisions for your long-term future. Therefore, one of the most important practices you can implement to ensure you make the best possible decisions in your divorce is to find ways to gain some emotional distance from the process.
Whether you are the one who made the decision to divorce or your spouse made the decision often is a key factor in how emotionally detached you can be in the process. If you made the decision, you are likely readier and more willing to leave the marriage, allowing you to see things from a more rational and less emotionally attached standpoint. However, if your spouse chose to divorce you and you do not feel ready to embark on this change, you will have to make an extra effort in terms of accepting this reality and moving forward in a way that keeps your needs and concerns in divorce in the forefront without adding extra anger or emotion to the process.
Building a solid support system
Many divorced people say one of the things that helped them most during their divorce was having a good support network. Your support network should be partly made up of some trusted friends who can give you objective and caring advice and serve as an empathetic sounding board for your struggles. In addition, you may consider a therapist, minister or another professional who knows how to give guidance in these situations. Of course, one of your primary advocates during your divorce is your family law attorney. Make sure you seek recommendations to find a professional who will best suit your needs.