Many people think that they understand divorce because they’ve seen it reenacted on Court TV and in movies so often. The sad reality is that it is much slower and complicated than any Hollywood portrayal could ever give. This post will go over the inside knowledge of divorces, as learned by attorneys over the years.
Women are, unfortunately, regularly side-blinded by the realization that having children does not mean they get to dictate the terms of the divorce. The court’s primary concern during divorce is what is in the best interests of the child. In modern courts, that usually means the judge will try to ensure that both parents maintain a presence in the child’s life. You cannot control the divorce or instill strict rules when they are at the other parent’s residence, standing your ground just make the whole situation more complicated.
On the other side, men tend not to take the divorce seriously enough. Divorce attorneys have regularly noticed that males tend to put off deadlines and preparation. Procrastination is fine at work, but during a divorce, it can have a lot of unpleasant side-effects.
Another concern from divorce attorneys is that younger persons (or Millenials) don’t take marriage as seriously as prior generations. Many divorce attorneys see Millenials marry and divorce very quickly, sometimes within the same year. Take a moment, enjoy life, finish college, and worry about marriage later.
Prosecuting a divorce on your own is difficult. You need to deal with the financial, legal, and emotional aspects all on your own while trying to keep a handle on your day-to-day life. It is a tall order for any person, and as you can see above, many people go into their divorces not even understanding the gravity of the situation. A lawyer can prepare you for the emotional turmoil and family legal issues. You don’t need to go through it alone.
Source: Huffington Post, “10 Things I Learned As A Divorce Attorney,” A. Rodriguez, December 6, 2016